Quick Stats on Domestic Abuse
This post is not supposed to be a complete coverage of every statistic that exists in the world about Domestic Abuse. It should be seen as a snap shot, something to make you think twice, question the perceived norm. It should present you two choices, do your own research and take nothing for granted, or accept that male victims of domestic abuse are a larger group than you assumed, and the solution needs your participation.
The generally accepted stats are 1 in 4 women, 1 in 6 Men. (Source PSNI and most police forces) It is also accepted 1 in 3 Victims are Male
However these raw stats ignore the fact that 60% of all abuse is recripical, meaning two violent people hitting each other. When Erin Pizzy opened Refuge, the first government backed shelter for battered women she found 60 of her first 100 clients were as violent or more violent than the partner they left. (Source Erin Pizzy, this way to the revolution. whiteribbon.org)
Erin is not alone in this view, Psychologists at the University of Cumbria lead by Dr Elizabeth Bates
found women to be were ‘significantly’ more likely to be verbally and physically aggressive to men than vice versa.
This study by Harvard University found 70% of domestic violence was perpetrated by women against men
I would draw your attention to the work of Martin S Filebert and his Bibliography,
SUMMARY: This bibliography examines 286 scholarly investigations: 221 empirical studies and 65 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 371,600.
One could chase studies and stats round and round, the only thing that will ever be definite is both men and women suffer abuse. The real disparity is in the services provided. There is not a country in the world with a proper provision for male shelters. In Ireland, North and South not one Bed space for a male Victim. Wales, 1 bed space, there are roomers of 18 beds in England, but what qualifies you to get them is shrouded in mist and being in a same sex relationship is apolitical to some of those beds. Canada, 1 bed space.
This absence of services, cupeled with a bias family court system has a very real effect. A male victim of domestic abuse is often faced with these choices.
Homelessness, and loss of contact with his children.
In the United Kingdom on average 12 men commit suicide every day, the police do not investigate the causes of these deaths.
If we take the accepted figure of 1 in 6 men experiencing domestic abuse, that would mean 2 men suffering domestic abuse was murdered by there partner colluding with the state. every day. However we both know that the situation forced on male victims means they will be more at risk of suicide than either single men or men in stable relationships.
So I ask you this, where exactly is the disproportionate affects of domestic abuse ?
It is time to start providing a service based on need, not gender. The services that are there for women are needed, nobody wants them removed. However we need services for men also. After all, men are people too.